Love is in the Air

It’s February 14 and the first draft of my paranormal romance is finished. I have started sending it out to several of my friends to see what they think of it. I also offered it to my blog readers to try to get a more unbiased opinion, but so far no takers.

I have been seeing romantic advertisements everywhere for the last couple weeks. Of course that is to be expected. Valentine’s Day has always been said to be a holiday created by the flower and greeting card industry. But that doesn’t mean it can’t also be a good thing.

I have been married to my wonderful wife for almost fourteen years now, and I love her just as much now as when I first met her. I tell her this every chance I get. When I wrote my paranormal romance novel I tried to channel that feeling into my writing. I’m not sure how well that worked out, but that’s what edits are for, right?

I have to confess that I really struggled with the romance part of my novel. First of all, I’m a man, so that’s one strike against me. Can anyone tell me of ANY male romance authors? I can’t think of a single one. Or are they writing under a pseudonym?

Secondly, I’m usually a calm and reserved person, so writing a passionate love scene was EXTREMELY difficult for me. I mean, I feel that passion for my wife, but allowing myself to open up and share it with the rest of the world was kind of against my nature.

Third, I felt uncomfortable writing about sex. My faith has taught me to respect the love of two people, which should not be sullied by things like premarital sex and pornography. So I felt that when I was writing about my heroine and her man having premarital sex I was encouraging behavior that I didn’t believe in, even though it was what the characters demanded.

I would be interested in hearing what the rest of you think about this. And if you are interested in reading my first draft of Finding Valhalla just let me know and I’ll send you a link to the file on my Dropbox share.

Happy Valentine’s Day!



Filed under About Me, The Writing Experience

2 responses to “Love is in the Air

  1. I recently have read some romance by James Patterson, but he had a co-author (a woman), and I suspect she did those parts, if not the whole book! My cynicism is showing about James Patterson…LOL

    Good luck with your work, and I can relate to your difficulty…but not about romance. I have trouble writing “action scenes.”

  2. I’m not a man but I seriously struggle with the romance aspect of things too. 🙂 I’m not a romantic person, I was going to blog about this today, actually!

    As for the moral aspect. We’re storytellers – it isn’t up to us to judge our characters, after all, many of us write about murderers but it doesn’t mean we condone their actions. We translate the story, give the characters a voice, other than that we don’t have much to do with it. If all characters had the same beliefs and reactions then the story would be flat and uninteresting imo. Keep doing what you’re doing.

    If you’re stuck for a CP or beta reader, I might be up for an exchange. But I must warn you, I’m short on time, I’ve no real critiquing experience and I’m really harsh. 😀 As I said, if you’re ever stuck!

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